Author Augusten Burroughs has written an excellent, thought-provoking "Modern Love" column in the New York Times that explains what happens when you get married as a gay man. He explains how he didn't feel like he was doing anything right, well except picking the ring:
"The one element I got absolutely right was our wildly inappropriate rings. As a gemologist and lifetime jewelry collector, I chose them both. Most self-respecting men would not wear diamond rings as large and flashy as these. We've often joked (because we're deadly serious) about what 'bad gays' we are, and with no big ceremony, no gifts, no trip and no children, we confirmed it. Our wedding was apparently about jewelry, which is gay, but bad gay."
He later posted more information on Facebook about the wedding rings:
"Christopher said people are yammering about wanting to see the rings so here they are. Mine is on the left: it's circa 1950's -1960's in white gold with a 4ct pale marquis-cut "fancy yellow" diamond along with a bunch of triangle-cut diamonds surrounding the base, like windows at the top of the Chrysler building. Christopher's ring is on the right and it's circa 1930, a Belcher setting in platinum with a 2ct European cut diamond. I love this ring because it reminds me of a Georgia O'Keeffe painting."