Even in the LGBTQ+ community, open relationships and polyamory are often dismissed or mocked, but they are just as valid as monogamous couples out there.
If you thrive in an open relationship, practice ethical non-monogamy, get down in a throuple, or love being poly, no one feel judged as long as everyone in the relationship knows the score.
Celebrities already live under a magnifying glass and face fierce backlash any time they step outside of the norm, but these famous queer folks have talked openly and bravely about their current or former non-monogamous relationships.
RuPaul
RuPaul
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RuPaul has been with his husband Georges LeBar since the '90s, but they have an open relationship that the Drag Race host has spoken candidly about.
"I wouldn't want to put restraints on the person I love the most on this planet," RuPaul told Vanity Fair.
"Listen, if you get something that you cannot resist and that is gonna make you happy, go for it. Because the truth is, I know in my heart of hearts like I've ever known anything before, that man loves me more than anything else in this world." That's genuinely beautiful.
Sasha Colby
In an exclusive interview with Out back in 2024, Sasha Colby revealed that she's polyamorous and dating multiple people.
"This is probably news breaking, but I'm actually poly! I have a few people that I'm dating and talking to. It takes the pressure off one relationship. I'm just able to really have absolute autonomy and be myself and focus on my career and have a couple of people who really care about me. It's literally, 'tag you're it!' It literally takes a village."
Janelle Monáe
Singer and actor Janelle Monáe is both nonbinary and pansexual, but they are also polyamorous. While talking to British Vogue in 2023, the star said they are "more free in my thinking" and admitted that they don’t get jealous.
"I never was the girlfriend that would be jealous," Monáe said, confirming that they have been in polyamorous relationships in the past. "Looking back, I’m like – clearly!"
Frankie Grande
Before saying 'I Do' to his husband, gay pop star Frankie Grande talked about being in a throuple with a married couple.
"I’m very grateful for that previous relationship and I think it prepared me for this one, the ultimate one where I got my ring," Grande told Page Six. "I think everything happens for a reason. Now I’m an old married man in a monogamous relationship."
Mae Martin
Comedian Mae Martin, who used to date Survivor’s Parvati Shallow, opened up about being in a throuple while on the podcast Why Won’t You Date Me with Nicole Byer.
"I’m so evangelical about how we should all be fluid and open and free," Martin said. "We should enjoy being young and alive and nice and communicative and warm and slutty."
Bob the Drag Queen
Drag Race superstar Bob the Drag Queen, who is openly polyamorous, has stated that she doesn’t think one person has the ability to fulfill another person's every need.
"I have a partner in LA and a partner in Georgia," Bob said on an April 2025 episode of Boyfriend Material With Harry Jowsey.
"They know each other. They’re not super close, but they do like each other. My partners also have partners too, which is great for me. I’m a really independent person, and I actually don’t like the idea of being someone's everything. I actually kind of get exhausted at the idea of being around someone all the time. So having your partner have a partner is really a gift."
Dan Savage
Dan Savage
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Savage Lovecast host Dan Savage is responsible for coining the term "monogamish" and has spent years talking openly on his show about being in a consensual non-monogamous relationship with his husband, Terry.
"My problem with monogamy is, we're told that if we're in love, we won't want to sleep with anybody else," Savage said back in 2015. "The truth is, if we're in love and we make a monogamous commitment, that means we will refrain from sleeping with other people. We still want to sleep with other people."
Nico Tortorella
Actor Nico Tortorella (who used to use they/them pronouns, but now goes by he/him) and his wife Bethany Meyers penned an essay for Them after their nuptials about being in a queer polyamorous relationship.
"If you had to label it, Nico and I are in a queer polyamorous relationship," the couple wrote. "Labels that help people understand, but not labels that define us. Most think we planned this and one day decided we would be multiple-love kind of people. We didn’t. It’s just the way our relationship developed over 12 years."
In 2024, Tortorella said the couple was no longer poly, but were open to re-exploring non-monogamy in the future.
Willow Smith
In 2021, bisexual star Willow Smith came out as polyamorous while opening up to her mother Jada Pinkett-Smith and grandmother Adrienne Banfield-Norrison on The Red Table Talk.
"With polyamory, I feel like the main foundation is the freedom to be able to create a relationship style that works for you," she said.
Indya Moore
Trans Pose star Indya Moore came out as polyamorous on Twitter in 2018 when she wrote, "So, I realized I’m poly." Since then, Moore hasn’t shared any relationship news.
Shailene Woodley
Big Little Lies star Shailene Woodley has spoken candidly about being in open relationships in the past and believes that the only people who get to have an opinion about it are the ones in the relationship.
"Listen, I’m someone who has experienced both an open relationship and a deeply monogamous relationship in my life, and I think we’re in a day and age where there should be no rules except for the ones designed by two people in a partnership — or three people, whatever floats your boat," she told The New York Times in 2020.
"There has to be a level of responsibility in any relationship dynamic, and that responsibility is simply honesty and communication and trust. Apart from that, it’s really none of our business what people choose to do with their lives."
Bella Thorne
Actress Bella Thorne is engaged to fiancé Mark Emms, but has talked about previously being in non-monogamous relationships.
"I love loving two people at once,” she told Cosmopolitan in 2019. "I love sharing stories with three people in one room. So, I’m always trying to find ways to make it work because I think it really would make me happy."
Yungblud
British singer Yungblud is pansexual and polyamorous, and has spoken candidly about both, despite the queerbaiting accusations that are often hurled his way.
"I probably would say now, I am polyamorous," he told Attitude in 2020. "Before I didn’t f--king know what I was. I was meeting people and learning… by meeting them and talking about sexuality and gender, I [was] going, 'Oh my f--king God, maybe I’m this, if I’m going to be f--king close to anything on the spectrum.'"
Margaret Cho
Comedian Margaret Cho started talking about her open relationship way back in 2016, when she admitted that her marriage to artist Al Ridenour was open.
"I'm married to a man but I'm bisexual so I like both," Cho told the hosts of The Real. "We got together because... we both have this [idea], 'I just don't want to have sex with the same person my whole life. That's just gross.'"
