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Sorry straight women of TikTok, mustaches and tote bags don't make your boyfriend gay
A new TikTok trend is celebrating "beautiful girls" who "have a little gay boyfriend" and it's annoying AF!
There’s a new viral TikTok sound going around that proves, once again, that straights have no idea what they’re talking about...
It’s another day on the internet, and straight people don’t know how to talk about gender or sexuality. (What a surprise!) A new TikTok trend has us all scratching our heads, wondering when being gay went from a sexuality and part of who you are to a white, hipster aesthetic.
@ashweecarter me and who honestly #boyfriends #girlfriends #dating #relationships #fyp #foryoupage ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
“I love when beautiful girls have a little gay boyfriend,” TikTok user Ashleigh Carter, the person who originated the now viral sound, says in the TikTok. “They just have a little, feminine, vintage Levi's wearing, tote bag carrying, mustache little boyfriend. He’s covered in the most random tattoos you’ve ever seen, one’s like a hot dog skateboarding.”
“His coworkers are shocked when he has this beautiful, amazing, stunning girlfriend,” she continues in the video, which, at the time of writing, has over 855K likes and has been stitched and used countless times by other TikTok users. “They're like, ‘Is she your cousin?’ and he’s like, ‘No, I make sweet, sweet love to her and I worship her.’ And I think that’s really beautiful and I love those couples.”
Girl, if you’re talking about bisexual men, just say you like bisexual men! We love bisexual men, and we love the women who date them! Unless, of course, that’s not what the TikTok was talking about...
@jennaallard #duet with @Ashleigh Carter ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
Nothing in the original audio, or in other videos that have reused it, indicate any actual queerness in the vast majority of these “gay boyfriends.” The videos just show (mostly white) cis men, usually with mustaches, usually with tattoos, always skinny, and wearing an outfit that would be generously described as “trendy” and “decent.”
Other than that, he seems to be exactly the same as any other cis straight boyfriend.
@batttykoda 😂🥹#portland #oregon #pdx #dating #tinder #hinge #bumble #leftswipe #portlanddating ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
What exactly is it that makes these boyfriends “gay?”
Wearing vintage jeans doesn’t make you gay. Carrying a tote bag doesn’t make you gay. Having a dozen shitty stick and poke tattoos doesn’t make you gay. (Those things just make you a white guy from Portland.)
@jacquiealexander_ my little moustache boyfriend #couple #ootd #whatwewore ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
Where is the “little” in these “little, feminine, gay” boyfriends??? Where is the “feminine???” Where is the “gay?????”
When did cis straight men having the tiniest bit of fashion sense and hygiene turn into them being gay? Just because your boyfriend can put together a good fit, likes to drink craft beer, and doesn’t pressure you into sex, it doesn’t mean he’s gay.
@fairyemother he’s perfect 🤭 #felix #pookie #couplegoals ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
Honestly, this new trend is just barely one degree separated from when we were kids and we’d get called gay for liking the color purple, brushing our hair, wiping our ass, or wearing a matching shirt and pants.
The difference is that now, hipsters seem to be chasing gay clout instead of chasing kids they perceive to be gay so they could beat them up.
@jasminettavares♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
Scroll through to see even more examples of "little gay boyfriends," and see if you can find out what makes them gay.
@fllanzyj not the tattoo reference 😭😂 i feel targeted #bf #gf #couple #trending #fyp #foryoupage #mustache #pookie #foryou #dating #silly #funny #funnyvideos #cpl #bananabread #crossont #p ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
@fromhaustohome he’s just my lil guy 🫶 #highschoolsweethearts #husbandandwife #bestfriend @Natalie | FromHausToHome @Natalie | FromHausToHome ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
@iamnotkris #duo avec @Ashleigh Carter #boyfriends ♬ original sound - Ashleigh Carter
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Mey Rude is a journalist and cultural critic who has been covering queer news for a decade. The transgender, Latina lesbian lives in Los Angeles with her fiancée.
Mey Rude is a journalist and cultural critic who has been covering queer news for a decade. The transgender, Latina lesbian lives in Los Angeles with her fiancée.
