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My Spouse Cheated On Me With My In-Law. How Do I Move On?
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My Spouse Cheated On Me With My In-Law. How Do I Move On?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer says you are not defined by the bad things that happen to you.

I'm Bored With Dating. When Will I Find Love Again?
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I'm Bored With Dating. When Will I Find Love Again?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer says self-awareness is only half the battle.

Am I Bisexual?
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Am I Bisexual?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer doesn't want you to get so existential.

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How Do I Apologize to Exes Who Don’t Want to Hear It?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer gives some “bitter medicine.”

Can I Be Gay and Happy Living in Rural America?
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Can I Be Gay and Happy Living in Rural America?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer phones a friend.

I Settled For a Life That Doesn't Make Me Happy. Help!
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I Settled For a Life That Doesn't Make Me Happy. What Do I Do?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer wants you to play some Dungeons & Dragons.

I Want to Dress Gay — But Not Too Gay
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I Want to Dress Gayer — But Not, Like, Too Gay

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer is not your JVN.

I’m Depressed About Living with HIV. Is That OK?
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I’m Depressed About Living with HIV. Is That OK?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer discusses how to deal with a layered issue.

I Want to Define the Relationship. Is It Too Soon?
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I Want to Define the Relationship. Is It Too Soon?

In this installment of our advice column, !Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer says it's time to have "the talk."

I’m Getting Married But I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex
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I’m Getting Married But I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex

In this installment of our advice column, !Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer responds to a reader who can't tell if she's having cold feet.

My Ex Wants to Hang Out. Should I?
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My Ex Wants to Keep Hanging Out. Should I?

In this installment of our advice column, !Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer responds to a reader who can't let old habits die.

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Culture & Lifestyle

My Friends Want Me To 'Tone It Down.' Am I Too Gay?

In this week's installment of ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer addresses a reader's concerns about being "too much."

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I Hate Small Talk. Does That Make Me Bad at Dating?

In this week's installment of ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer addresses a reader's concerns about being too quiet on dates.

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Culture & Lifestyle

If I Don’t Come Out to My Coworkers, Am I Part of the Problem?

In this week’s installment of our advice column ¡Hola Papi! by John Paul Brammer, we dive into the etiquette and ethics of workplace queerness.

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Culture & Lifestyle

I Enjoy the Single Life. Does That Mean I'm Destined to Be Alone?

In this week's ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer talks through the ways we as a culture have ruined our thinking on the whole "single" thing.

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Culture & Lifestyle

I Just Experienced a Sexual Horror Story. Will I Ever Bounce Back?

In this week's installment of our advice column ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer breaks down the fragility of the male ego as it pertains to time between the sheets.

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How I've Learned to Cope With Depression as a Queer Person

In this week's installment of our advice column ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer gets very frank about realities of dealing with mental illness.

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