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Help! My Boyfriend Pretended to Be Latino
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Help! My Boyfriend Pretended to Be Latino

In this week's installment of ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer tackles the bizarre case of Michelada Dolezal.

My Spouse Cheated On Me With My In-Law. How Do I Move On?
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My Spouse Cheated On Me With My In-Law. How Do I Move On?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer says you are not defined by the bad things that happen to you.

I'm Bored With Dating. When Will I Find Love Again?
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I'm Bored With Dating. When Will I Find Love Again?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer says self-awareness is only half the battle.

Am I Bisexual?
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Am I Bisexual?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer doesn't want you to get so existential.

Should I Fake My Astrology Sign to Be More Employable?
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Should I Fake My Astrology Sign to Be More Employable?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer wants to be a Leo.

Couple, frustrated with one another sitting on a bed.
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How Do I Apologize to Exes Who Don’t Want to Hear It?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer gives some “bitter medicine.”

Can I Be Gay and Happy Living in Rural America?
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Can I Be Gay and Happy Living in Rural America?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer phones a friend.

I Settled For a Life That Doesn't Make Me Happy. Help!
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I Settled For a Life That Doesn't Make Me Happy. What Do I Do?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer wants you to play some Dungeons & Dragons.

I Want to Dress Gay — But Not Too Gay
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I Want to Dress Gayer — But Not, Like, Too Gay

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer is not your JVN.

My Mom Is Writing Erotica. She Wants Help With Her Gay Sex Scenes
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My Mom Is Writing Erotica. She Wants Help With Her Gay Sex Scenes

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer stans your mom.

I’m Depressed About Living with HIV. Is That OK?
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I’m Depressed About Living with HIV. Is That OK?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer discusses how to deal with a layered issue.

Am I in Love With My Straight Best Friend?
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Am I in Love With My Straight Best Friend?

In this installment of our advice column, ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer suggests you get some space from unrequited loves.

I Want to Define the Relationship. Is It Too Soon?
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I Want to Define the Relationship. Is It Too Soon?

In this installment of our advice column, !Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer says it's time to have "the talk."

I’m Getting Married But I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex
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I’m Getting Married But I Can’t Stop Dreaming About My Ex

In this installment of our advice column, !Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer responds to a reader who can't tell if she's having cold feet.

My Ex Wants to Hang Out. Should I?
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My Ex Wants to Keep Hanging Out. Should I?

In this installment of our advice column, !Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer responds to a reader who can't let old habits die.

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My Friends Want Me To 'Tone It Down.' Am I Too Gay?

In this week's installment of ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer addresses a reader's concerns about being "too much."

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I Hate Small Talk. Does That Make Me Bad at Dating?

In this week's installment of ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer addresses a reader's concerns about being too quiet on dates.

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If I Don’t Come Out to My Coworkers, Am I Part of the Problem?

In this week’s installment of our advice column ¡Hola Papi! by John Paul Brammer, we dive into the etiquette and ethics of workplace queerness.

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My Newfound Partner Won't Stop Snoring. How Do I Bring This Up?

In this week's installment of our advice column ¡Hola Papi!, John Paul Brammer helps address the concerns of some new lovers.

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Stop Demanding People of Color to Show ‘Gratitude’

The idea that immigrants and people of color should be quiet and grateful to simply live in the US isn’t unintentional. It’s by design.