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‘Dear Abby’ On Anti-Gay Guests at a Bride’s Wedding: ‘Do Not Invite Them’

Dear Abby
Dear Abby

The prolific advice column proves, once again, its commitment to the queer community.

"Dear Abby," one of the country's most widely circulated advice columns, once again showed solidarity with the queer community in a recent response to a bride regarding pro- and anti-gay wedding guests.

A letter from "Bride for Marriage Equality" asked for guidance on her upcoming wedding and selecting guests. The bride said she had gay friends and family, but some people on her father's side were not. She hoped that everyone could leave

"I'm terrified that my family members will do or say something to hurt or offend guests at our wedding who have same-sex partners," the bride wrote.

The bride suggested putting up a message on her wedding website asking for guests to check politics at the door before the ceremony. But for Abby, that didn't seem enough.

"Do not post that message on your website," replied the columnist. "Your message should be delivered via a telephone conversation with the people you think may have a problem. A way to phrase it would be to tell them you are planning your wedding and that some of the guests in attendance will be same-sex couples."

Abby was pretty clear about what to do if the guests admitted they were anti-gay.

"Ask if this would make them uncomfortable, and if the answer is yes, do not invite them."

Sounds like Abby doesn't have time for the anti-queer hate, and frankly, neither do we. Go Abby!

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