In a new interview with Attitude, Kesha talks about what it’s like being a bisexual woman in the music industry. The “Raising Hell” singer says her sexual orientation has been a natural part of her life for a long time and reveals that she and her boyfriend are in an open relationship.
“I never hid [my bisexuality] from anybody,” she tells the British LGBTQ+ magazine. “I never had a moment of feeling I had to come out about it.”
The 32-year-old musician said she’s always been open about her personal life when asked about it during press interviews. “It was always there,” she says. “I think I had a conversation with a gay magazine in the U.S., and they just asked me, ‘Oh, are you bisexual?’ and I was like, ‘Obviously!’”
The queen of twangy, trashy pop also discussed her open relationship with Brad Ahsenfleter, her boyfriend of six years. She said she’s dated several women, but the media hasn’t paid attention because they assume she’s monogamous.
“He’s a sweetheart, but he also lets me be me,” she said. “You know, I’ll call him and be like, ‘I had fun tonight, I met a sweet girl and we had a really good time.’ And he’ll say, ‘Cool, babe, I love you.’ It’s so nice. … He knows that I’m just a wild spirit that needs to run free, and that I always come back to the barn for apples from my boy!”
The two live happily together in Venice, California, with Kesha’s cats and Ashenfelter’s compact disc collection. Yes, that’s real. According to Marie Claire, he also thinks that the only good pizza and sandwiches come from New Jersey. Love really can overcome anything.
Kesha also said she has an upcoming song that touches on this very topic, called “Kinky.” (Note: I think I have a new favorite song? I think I just went to heaven?)
“It’s about how everything is fine as long as we’re honest with each other,” she explained. “That’s the understanding we have, a kinky understanding is what it’s called. As long as there are no secrets, no lies, no hiding anything, let’s just have fun!” I’ve never heard the term before, but I’m here for it!
While we all collectively stan an Open Communication Legend, it’s so wonderful to see Kesha happy, healthy, and finally free of “allegedly” abusive producer Dr. Luke, with whom she was ensnared in a years-long legal battle to be released from her recording contract. She accused the producer of sexual and emotional violence, suing him for emotional distress, employment discrimination, and gender-based violence in court.
Interviews like this show how she’s thriving in both her personal and creative lives and that she’s only beginning to show us what she’s got. Her new album High Road will be released January 10.