What Do You Do When Your Boyfriend Is Too Big to Top?

Being queer doesn't come with a guidebook. Queer lives are a series of firsts, and as a marginalized community, we're usually left to navigate every aspect of life -- from jobs to sex to relationships -- on our own, without the kind of social resources available for cishetero people. Operating in the world as an LGBTQ+ person can often feel like an endless improvisation, making it up as you go along, and even asking other queers for advice can feel like the blind leading the blind.

Thankfully, there are folks within our community using their experience and -- most importantly -- empathy to make that course a little easier to plot. One of those folks is John Paul Brammer, who writes Out's weekly advice column, !Hola Papi!, and is currently working on a book that's already on our Amazon wishlist. With seemingly limitless patience, kindness, and well-placed tough love, Brammer dishes out the tea we all need to hear.

On this week's episode of The Outcast, Brammer joins host Rose Dommu to consult on issues ranging from lesbian influencer drama to whatever the opposite of being a "size queen" is -- yes, apparently that's a thing.

And on WIG: Outcast producer Jeffrey Masters, actress Arisce Wanzer, and Pride.com pop culture editor Taylor Henderson debate whether Kristen Stewart should have stayed in the closet in order to land a Marvel movie and if Boston's "straight pride parade" was a flop.

Listen to new episodes of The Outcast every week on iHeartRadio and everywhere podcasts are available.

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