18 Types of Sex All Gay Men Should Try At Least Once in their Lifetime
By Zachary Zane
18 Types of Sex All Gay Men Should Have in Their Lifetime
There are so many different ways guys have sex with each other. There’s a lot in between the two extremes of making love to the man of your life, and having a raunchy, anonymous hookup in a bathhouse.
So here are 18 types of sex all gay/bi men should experience (at least once) at some point in their lives!
1. The first time you’ll never forget
Ohhhh, that first time you’re with a guy. You’re nervous. You’re confused. It feels so right, yet you think it’s so wrong. All the shame, joy, confusion, and pleasure amalgamating to create an overwhelming emotional overload.
2. The first time having sex with someone you really like
For many of us, the first experience we had with a man wasn’t great. Odds are, we didn’t actually like them that much. (If you did, you’re lucky!) So the first time you have sex with a man you really like (maybe even love) is a pretty phenomenal experience. You think to yourself, "Wow. This is it."
3. The anonymous/cruisy/back room/park/sauna/etc.
In my humble opinion, I think this is a rite of passage for every gay man. I think we all need to have some form of cruisy, bathhouse, and/or park experience. The fearful rush is unlike anything you’ve experimented with before.
4. That time you finally “get” bottoming
If you’re like me, the first time you bottomed you did not get what the fuss was about. I was clenching, hadn’t cleaned properly, and honestly had no idea what to do. I also remember being in a lot of pain. A few tries later, when you learn to relax, you finally get what the whole fuss is about, and it starts to feel really, really good.
5. When you have sex with someone who’s a goddamn rockstar
The first time you have sex with someone who’s f*cking great. He’s sexy. He’s energetic. He knows how to move. And he has you thinking, "What type of garbage sex have I been having for the past X years?"
6. The "I need a Grindr quickie so I can get a full night's sleep"
Who needs Ambien when you have Grindr, am I right? Those nights where you’re having trouble falling asleep, so you invite a guy over. Forty-five minutes later, you’re passed out. Sleeping like a baby.
7. The first time having sex (sober)
In order to have sex with a man the first few times, many of us had to get to a point of severe inebriation. It’s obviously very different, and a lot more special, when you first have sex with a man sober.
8. The slow, tender, lovemaking session
Makin’ love to the man you love. Life really doesn’t get much better than that.
9. The first time with someone a little kinkier
He smacks your butt hard, or he rests his hands on your throat, applying a little pressure. Your heart speeds up. You feel the rush of exploring something a little kinkier, a little more intense.
10. The threesome
Honestly, I think everyone should experience a threesome at least once, at some point in their life. We all need to learn what the fuss is about, and why two heads (pun intended) are better than one.
11. The summer camp jerk session
Summer camp is literally the most homoerotic space to have ever existed. Just a bunch of hormonal guys, some closeted, some straight, but all confused about their sexuality, bunking together and exploring each other’s bodies.
12. Stupidly fun drunk sex
When you get to experience drunk sex that’s actually amazing. You somehow have more energy and feel like a goddamn rock star. Everything feels so good.
13. Stupidly terrible drunk sex
That drunk sex that is absolutely awful. We’ve all had it. (Some of us more than we care to admit.) You can’t get hard. You feel gross. Your bodies don’t seem to be connecting at all. Literally, the worst. You might be asking why I think every gay men should experience this. Fair question! I think it's important for us to have a couple mediocre sexual experiences, so we can appreciate the good ones.
14. Hot foreign country sex
There’s something unbelievably hot about having sex with someone in a foreign country. (When it’s a local in that county, that makes it even better.) Not sure why this is the case, but man-oh-man, it is.
15. The older man (Daddy)
When you sleep with a guy who’s 20 years your senior, and you’re like, "Woah, practice DOES make perfect!"
16. The younger man (Baby)
When 20 years later the tables have turned, and you’re showing the ropes to a newly out gay/bi man, helping him live out his daddy fantasy.
17. The time you get a little “dirty”
It's another rite of passage that will inevitably happen. What do you expect? You’re poking around in someone’s butt. The first time this happens you’re definitely a little freaked out. But by the 10th time, you literally could not care less.
18. The day-to-day sex with the man you love
Had to end the slideshow on an uplifting note! It’s not even the physical act of sex that’s good; it’s the fact that you’re doing it with the man you love. It’s pure intimacy.