“There was a moment in my life where I was like ya know, can I be myself? The moment where you overthink sh*t,” she said. “That's not even me, why am I overthinking this? I guess you just get to the point where I want my life to be my own.”
At first, Palmer didn’t act out on her attraction to girls because she didn’t want her family to know, but around age 17, she couldn’t hide it any more.
“There is like an unsaid thing that can make you feel — and because I liked guys too, I was kinda like, ‘Well, we don’t have to talk about it,'” she explained. “Because I like guys too, it was like that’s another extra thing that no one really has to know about. I don’t really have to live out.”
“I ultimately just feel like the acceptance of that part of myself, in general, was a part of my process of being able to have love in my life,” she continued.
“Sexuality and stuff like that, that was not even – my parents never even cared about something like that or talked about that,” she said. “And I know that by the time they saw how free of a spirit I was, and whoever I wanted to date, they were like ‘Whoever cares.’ It was never anything that was in their mind.”
“I don’t belong to anyone else but myself. I have to make my own decisions. Happiness is defined by me. My sexuality is defined by me,” she said. “And that can change and this can change and I can make it what I want to make it because I'm the one who makes that choice.”
She talked more about her sexuality earlier this year when she took home the Vanguard Award at the Los Angeles LGBT Center’s annual gala.
“I’m so grateful to be here today to be embraced by a community that I’ve always felt accepted by and part of,” she said when accepting the award. “Sexuality and identity for me has always been confusion. You know, it’s, ‘I never felt straight enough. I never felt gay enough. And I never felt woman enough. I never felt man enough.’ You know, I always felt like I was a little bit of everything.”
“You know, since I was younger, I always questioned the boxes I was forced to be in and it starts with who you’re supposed to be as a child,” she continued. “I’m truly so grateful to be seen in this room because I know I’m surrounded by people who know without a doubt what it’s like to decide to be who you are in a world that tells you to be everything but yourself.”