Now that she’s getting older and wiser, Demi Lovato is starting to figure out who she really is
In a new cover story for Glamour, the 28-year-old singer and actor talked about how her 2018 overdose led to her re-examining all aspects of her life, including her sexuality and how queer she really is.
She said she’s doing some figuring out in terms of labels, but isn’t ready to be public about it yet.
“I know who I am and what I am, but I’m just waiting until a specific timeline to come out to the world as what I am,” Lovato said in the interview. “I’m following my healers’ timeline, and I’m using this time to really study and educate myself on my journey and what I’m preparing to do.”
Wherever she ends up, Lovato said “she feels ‘too queer’ to be with a cis man,” and she’s finally embracing that. Cutting her hair was a part of that acceptance, and she wants to eventually shave her head.
“When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” Lovato added. “This past year I was engaged to a man, and when it didn’t work, I was like, This is a huge sign. I thought I was going to spend my life with someone. Now that I wasn’t going to, I felt this sense of relief that I could live my truth.”
As she’s grown, she’s more able to tell what she likes and doesn’t like. And she’s listening to herself. “I hooked up with a girl and was like, ‘I like this a lot more.’ It felt better. It felt right,” she said.
“Some of the guys I was hanging out with—when it would come time to be sexual or intimate, I would have this kind of visceral reaction," she continued. "Like, ‘I just don’t want to put my mouth there.’ It wasn’t even based on the person it was with. I just found myself really appreciating the friendships of those people more than the romance, and I didn’t want the romance from anybody of the opposite sex.”
Later this month, Lovato’s YouTube documentary Demi Lovato: Dancing With the Devil will release, giving us the deepest dive into her struggles and overdose yet. The doc will premiere on March 23.
Lovato is also set to star in and produce a new comedy series for NBC called Hunger. Hunger follows a group of friends in a food issues support group as they grow together and try to find “love, success, and that one thing in the refrigerator that will make it all better.”