Demi Lovato is taking a stand for trans people.
The 28-year-old pop star took to Instagram to share a post called “Why gender reveals are transphobic” yesterday. She reposted the images from trans activist Alok Vaid-Menon, and helped to explain how gender reveal parties are transphobic and do more harm than you might think.
“This is not about being politically correct, it’s about being correct. The refusal to acknowledge this stems from a misunderstanding of what transphobia is,” the caption reads. Transphobia is not just prejudice or violence against an individual trans person, it is a belief system that presumes non-trans people to be more ‘natural’ than trans people. Only individual people can self determine their gender.”
“It’s both insincere and incorrect to pretend that gender reveal parties are not transphobic,” the post, which features graphics from designer and artist NABI, reads, “You can’t have your proverbial pink-blue binary cake and eat it too.”
On the next slide, the post continues. “Gender reveals are based on the illusion that genitals = gender and that there are only two options ‘boy or girl,’” it says, “This definition erases the fact that there are boys with vaginas and girls with penises and that there are people who are neither boys nor girls. The idea that sex is based on genitalia is inconsistent with science.”
“The irony is that trans and gender non-conforming people are accused of advancing a ‘gender ideology,’ when in fact we are trying to escape it,” the final image reads. “The real ideology at play here is a system which romanticizes the denial of individuality in the service of maintaining category.”
Unfortunately, a lot of people are responding to the post telling Lovato she’s being “too much” and going “too far.”
“It’s not that deep,” one fan commented. “This is incredibly unfair to say to happy expecting parents,” said another. “Demi I love you, but this is too much,” said a third fan. “Today a gender reveal is ‘transphobic’ and then what’s gonna be tomorrow? A birthday celebration is gonna be ageist?!?! People need to stop living in la la land and join reality.”
Gender reveal parties are barely more than a decade old, with Jenna Karvunidis popularizing them after writing about having one on her blog in 2008. She has now come out against the tradition, saying “who cares what gender the baby is? I did at the time because we didn’t live in 2019 and didn’t know what we know now — that assigning focus on gender at birth leaves out so much of their potential and talents that have nothing to do with what’s between their legs.”