A throuple (portmanteau of the words threesome and couple) is a three-person relationship. All three people in the relationship love and care for one another equally. Throuples can be open (meaning you also are sleeping with people outside of the throuple) or closed (meaning it’s just you and your two hubbies).
I am under the firm impression that every queer man should try a throuple at least once (either open or closed), and here’s why:
There is no grosser and more toxic feeling than jealousy. Being in a throuple forces you to confront your jealousy issues head on and come to terms with your own insecurities. That’s not to say you won’t get jealous in a throuple from time to time; that’s to be expected. You will, however, be forced to come to terms with your jealousy through introspection and communication.
There’s a notion in modern romance that all of our needs are going to be met by one person — our “life partner.” This concept only started in the past century, and for many, it isn’t the case. We can’t expect one person to give us everything we need, which is why it’s crucial to remain close with your friends and family members whenever you start a new relationship. But by having two partners, you are doubling the chances that your needs will be met. Each partner will have strengths and weaknesses and be able to help you through different trying times.
So this is good and bad… Thanksgiving dinners may get complicated, and surely, there will be some family drama when you bring your two men home. (Not only is he gay, he has TWO boyfriends!) But hey, it’s worth it. And if you’re someone like me who loves your extended family, it’ll be great to have more in-laws.
I think this one is pretty self-explanatory. Threesomes on threesomes on threesomes! Or if you’re only in the mood for one, you just have one. But from the one time I was in a throuple (and from my friends who currently are in one), I can tell you that it’s literally a sex party all the time.