When Stars Collide
1.18.2012
By Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka
Photography by Matthew Kristall
Styling by Grant Woolhead
NEIL PATRICK HARRIS
I ran into my friend Kate one day and she was with this brooding, James Dean–type guy in a leather jacket who gave me the head nod and then turned away. I assumed he was Kate’s boyfriend and said, “Nicely done.” And she said, “David? He’s not playing on my team, but he has a boyfriend.” So, then I just kept seeing him on the periphery, and in turn, catching up on him, but I didn’t want to be that guy who was creating some sort of romantic interference. So, I was always around when he was around, hoping the stars would align. When we all hung out for the first time -- I was invited by Kate to an American Idol viewing party -- I just stammered around him. I couldn’t take my eyes off him.
There’s something kinetic about him and his being. He’s classically sexy, yet he’s very much a boy in his energy. It’s a great dynamic. When I see people who are equally attractive, they tend to seem more quiet and kind of Marlboro Man-y, and David’s the antithesis of that. He’s more like Tigger. I’m, in turn, very introspective -- the thinker, rather than the doer. I tend to weigh options before making decisions, and David is the polar opposite of that. We’re hyper similar and also incredibly opposite. We share a wardrobe. We have the same shoe size, body size, height, and weight. We’re both Gemini. We both like the idea of family -- not a nuclear family, but a social family. Yet, we’re incredibly opposite in the way we process information.
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That was just so sweet, I hope we all can find that kind of love that shakes our world, that is patient, honest and, the most important, real.
waaah :D im sooo jealous.. i know im still young but i wanna really have a relationship like this, :D :) love at its best :) hope they'll last till forever :)
This brought me tears. As happy as I am for them, I am a little jealous. I am 34 years old. I am a surgeon, and I work 16 hour days with barely any time off. I chose my career, but sometimes, I just wish I could find someone like David or Neil. Don't get me wrong; I love surgery and saving lives, but it's a tough life. I just want someone to go home to. Someone that can understand the demands of my career. Here's to hope...crap [pager goes off]. Someday. Hopefully, that day is close.
I almost cried too, but don't be jealous, love will come at the right time, best of lucks :)
I'm an argentinian cardiologist and i'm living in the same caos. I hope that we can find our real love!!!
I feel you. It's effing 2:30 AM, and I just finished a quadruple bypass. I started on it at 4:00 PM. Ugh. Gotta get sleep. But have too much coffee in my system. Ugh. At least the guy lived.
Straight girl here: I want a love like that. Beautiful...
why the hell did you have to qualify this with 'straight girl'? it has absolutely no bearing on the rest of your comment and is really irritating on a website for a gay magazine. you might as well have written 'NO HOMO LOL'
Neil Patrick Harris - I effing LOVE you. I can't even get over it.
Reading alls this positive thinks make me really happy. And I couldn't agree more. Neil and David are such an adorable couple and when I first heard about this article I was very exited. And then I read this and I was fascinated. What they are saying is very touching to me. I feel so happy for them and can just repeat what most people already said: Thanks out magazine for publishing it and Neil and David for beeing so honest and open. And thanks for these photos- probably the most adorable and cutest pictures I have ever seen. And of course I wish them all the best for the future and for Gideon and Harper, too...
Reading alls this positive thinks make me really happy. And I couldn't agree more. Neil and David are such an adorable couple and when I first heard about this article I was very exited. And then I read this and I was fascinated. What they are saying is very touching to me. I feel so happy for them and can just repeat what most people already said: Thanks out magazine for publishing it and Neil and David for beeing so honest and open. And thanks for these photos- probably the most adorable and cutest pictures I have ever seen. And of course I wish them all the best for the future and for Gideon and Harper, too...
i believe that love has its way of finding us when we least expect it to
Is there any way that i can print out this article and not be stealing from you guys? id love to have a copy to keep for real.
when i first seen my issue of Out i just smiled. I think these two are a beautiful couple and the love that is shown through the picture gives me hope that yes, yes i will have this someday. I am only 23 now but i feel i have an old soul that is searching for his soulmate that i could've lost in a past life. one day we will find each other and have the same love that these two beautiful men have :'-)
Straight woman her, and they are both very hot and sexy togheter.
Big thanks to Neil and David who were willing to share their private story and show us all that love between two of the same gender is exactly the same as the love between a man and woman. They are helping to change people's perceptions in a very positive way.
What a wonderful love story, the pictures are tender and sexy in a way that should appear more frequently in the media. They are not provocative, they are just loving and you can feel the love between these two.
The story they tell is universal (gay or straight), all who have been really in love in a long term relationship will recognize themselves in it. In particular, that a relationship does not work by itself, it requires work from both partners, some times more than other.
The reason they have the rings on the right hand, and that they do not call each other husbands is a form of protest. That it is not legal for them to marry in California.
Astrology rears it's Junior High head. These guys are two "look at me" driven. The fact that they care for two young children is frightening. Hope they have the babies palms read.
Jesus... get into anger management...
huh?
I'm amazed that they can bring a topic like astrology? That's pretty weak. I hope they have their babies palms read.
yes...what a relief!!!
I am a 53 year old gay man and ridiculously, hopelessly romantic. This article was the best thing I have read in a long time. It gives me hope that one day I'll find myself in that same place. Then there are the pictures - you could just feel the love between NPH and David Burtka. They showed a side of love that needs to be seen more. Very classy, very true, very romantic - yeah, I had tears.
i agree...it's kind of a relief when you get to read this...great inspiration..
You're committed to each other, you have a life together, children. If you feel like his husband, you're his husband.
I've been with my own husband for 16 years, 6 of those married. Our marriage license is not what makes me a wife, our wedding ceremony didn't make us a family. No government or church can do that, only you can. And it sounds like you already have.
What I love most about this article is how the things they say about love are pertinent to ANY couple. I saw things that they talked about here that I see in my own (heterosexual) relationship. This is only a glimpse in to how universal love can be is
It's sad that some people see this as "gayness" instead of a beautiful love story.
I totally agree. This is a beautiful love story. And I see a beautiful picture (pictures) of beautiful, true love,
that moves me deeply. And it's not relevant if the couple is gay or straight. Love is love.
Made me smile. I love NPH and admire anyone who can be that open about the ups and downs. And I've always found the whole gay marriage issue absurd. Marriage should be about two consenting adults who love each other. It shouldn't matter if the couple is m/f, m/m or f/f. I know a lot of people who say that the law should just call it something else and reserve the term "marriage" for hetero couples. Why? The commitment is the same, and the word should be as well. Speaking as a hetero woman.
Ug, more gayness.. That's what we need.. Like a bullet in the head..
A) Homophobia is just another word for deeply closeted and self-hating. B) Why did you waste the time to navigate to this page and post a comment?
Clearly, you have way too much time on your hands. You might consider a hobby or a job..
urgh, ignorance. Not more of that.
Why did you read this article if you are put-off by "Gayness"?
More importantly, why are they on Out's site at all if they're put off by gayness?
The only reason, in my mind, is that he's stuffed so far in the closet that he's stuck by his own ignorance and inbred family hate.
It is uber impossible not to love NPH. The man can do no wrong in my eyes. Very sexy pictures!!!
Perfectly genuine and beautifuly written. A real inspiration. Photos could not have been more delightful.
All I see in the article is NPH has an extreme case of narcissism. It will destroy him at around age 50. Watch.
picture is a tadd cliche but the articles message is well written - oh and you could also be cops or superheros
I am glad that Neil and David have such a loving relationship. I wish them nothing but happiness!
what a bunch of crap,oh my god pass the sick bucket,"i didn'tmiss a night time or morning",what about the hrs inbeteeen,oh yeah they were with the nanny,that's why they had kids cos they can afford the best care,2 wankers.
My other half and I are working on 32 years together...are legally registered here in Washington state and soon, possibly married.
Kids.....I NEVER thought I would see this in my lifetime.
NPH....I am such a fan...beautiful pictures....
Thank you for having the courage to write, "Sometimes I’m deeply in love with David and head-over-heels, and sometimes I question whether it’s going to work out." I'm so glad that other people feel that way in their relationships as well.
And the pictures are gorgeous.
Hetero mom of two here, and I loved this article. NPH is a very good writer, and the authenticity and honesty that he brought to the page is refreshing and true for any good relationship. I like that these two men show what is possible in a romantic relationship--for all people, straight or gay. We need more people like this raising children, regardless of their gender or sexual preference.
NPH gets on my nerves like crazy. He seems so pleased with himself. How other people feel about zooey dechanel and/or lana del ray is how i feel about NPH.
I love NPH AND Zoey AND Lana. =)
So let me get this straight... He gets on your nerves because he's happy with who he is? How does that make any sense?
Funny, I've always found him very humble and self-effacing. Doubly impressive given his great success starting at such a young age. To each their own, of course.
Those photos are so beautiful, I can't stop looking at them! What a great article, I love their honesty and openness when discussing their relationship. Such a great couple!
Love the pictures!
I respect and admire how honest both men are about the realities of being in a relationship. Relationships are hard work. But, they're worth it.
As a mom with adult gay kids, it makes me feel extremely happy to hear about gay couples adopting or enlisting the help of surrogates to become fathers/mothers. Hoping one day I get to hold a grandbaby (ies) in my arms! :)
Best of luck to your beautiful family ! xxoo
I am sick of this guy going on and on about his "partner". Who cares really. He's gay, BIG FRIGGING DEAL. You know, I'm heterosexual and I don't feel the need to maul my man in public or to go on and on about dating men. It's disgusting and everyone is over it and you buddy. You suck as an actor and your look is awful. YAWN.
You know this is a gay magazine, don't you?
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