Everyone is getting gay married all of a sudden. But just because the option is now being made possible in widening circles, does that you mean you need to? CNN producer Rose Arce, who is currently raising a 6-year old daughter with her partner of 10 years, presents a look from the other side of the aisle. Would getting married now really change anything?
In some ways, any marriage in New York wouldn't be much more than a paper marriage because it wouldn't be recognized by the federal government. We would have a tad more security, but a state marriage wouldn't get us around federal gift taxes or affect immigration and Social Security survivor benefits or give us back the money we already spent on a second-parent adoption. We would win the right to file joint state taxes, which could increase the taxes we pay! This state marriage business is more like a half-marriage. It still feels more like an unfolding story than our drama in real-life.
She goes on to argue that while the right to get married is an amazing step forward, the sudden pressure for all same-sex couples to get married--the same pressure shared by straight couples since the dawn of time--can be a bit stressful. Read her whole article online at CNN.com.