"Reporters these days operate under the assumption that men with boyfriends -- particularly men in New York City, particularly male fashion designers -- are out of the closet. So the New York Times really shouldn't be faulted for 'outing' designer Jason Wu to his extended family, Jezebel. Wu outed himself to and through the New York Times. The lesson here: If you're making a secret of your homosexuality it's your responsibility to keep it secret. It's not the New York Times' responsibility."