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Sex & Relationships

Go Ask Alex: I don't like my penis after an implant. What do I do?

Columnist Alexander Cheves addresses a reader's genital dysmorphia and struggle to rediscover pleasure after life-changing surgery.

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Sex & Relationships

Go Ask Alex: My best friend is dating my ex-husband. Is it OK to be upset?

Columnist Alexander Cheves offers advice on surviving the emotional fallout when your best friend dates your ex.

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Out Exclusives

Are labels holding back the modern LGBTQ+ movement?

The LGBTQ+ movement built labels for survival. Now, they're being used by its enemies as platforms for attack.

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Sex & Relationships

What is a fetish? From leather to feet, a gay sex expert explains

Here is everything you need to know about fetishes, and how they intersect with gay culture.

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Sex & Relationships

Go Ask Alex: I'm a gay trans man. What if a guy rejects my body?

Columnist Alexander Cheves offers advice to a gay trans man navigating hookup anxiety, dysphoria, rejection, and intimacy with cis men.

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Sex & Relationships

Go Ask Alex: Why is fisting so dangerously competitive?

Columnist Alexander Cheves advises a reader on navigating the competitive side of fisting culture — and why pleasure, patience, and intimacy matter more than milestones.

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Travel

I left my heart in Malta, a queer haven in the Mediterranean

The Mediterranean island nation blends ancient history, vibrant queer community, DIY Pride spirit, and some of Europe’s strongest LGBTQ+ rights protections, reports travel writer Alexander Cheves.

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Sex & Relationships

Go Ask Alex: Hairy vs. smooth butt—which do gay guys prefer?

Columnist Alexander Cheves tackles a reader’s question about whether the removal of body hair is necessary prep before rimming.