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Rimming, explained: Expert advice on pleasure, hygiene, and safety
Like all sex acts, it’s part technique and part passion. Here are some expert tips on how to do it well.
Nov 12, 2025
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Alexander Cheves is a memoirist, sex columnist for Out magazine, and author of My Love Is a Beast: Confessions from Unbound Edition Press, which won the 2022 Geoff Mains Nonfiction Award from NLA International. He received an Excellence in Journalism Award from the National Lesbian and Gay Journalists Association and, in 2021, was named to the Out 100. Cheves has been a guest on many radio shows and podcasts, including Loveline and Dan Savage's Savage Lovecast. He has spoken on panels at SXSW, The International AIDS Conference, the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai, and others. He is set to release his second book in 2025.
As a contributing editor at The Advocate, Cheves launched the "Sexy Beast" column for Advocate.com in 2016. To date, it has generated the site's best traffic on record. He now writes the "Last Call" column in print editions of Out magazine. His bylines include VICE, Them, Document Journal, Out Traveler, and more. Originally from the American South, he now lives in Berlin and is a member of the Berlin Queer Writers Circle.