Let’s face it. Some parts of the queer community, particularly the cis gay male side, are uniquely designed to disenfranchise fat people — for example, the common refrain “no fats, no femmes” weaponized and mandated across dating apps. As another example, a study surveying a handful of gay magazines (Out included) from 2001 to 2004 found that out of every single image of a man found in their pages, 73% of them had muscle tone or low body fat.
“While there has been progress in breaking down fatphobia, the word ‘inclusive’ has become a trendy buzzword. It’s something that everyone loves to tout but not many have truly embraced,” says Corbin Chamberlin, a writer for the bear community and frequent whistleblower against fatphobia among LGBTQ+ people. As a consequence of gay twink idolatry perpetuated through the early aughts, we cultivated an algorithm that refuses to do away with fatphobic beauty standards, championing shirtless post-SoulCycle selfies and homogenous Fire Island group shots. This phenomenon has not only perpetuated negativity, shame, and stigma — it’s now in our dating culture.
“Removing fatphobic qualifiers when speaking to each other would be a great place to start. The words ‘you would be so hot if,’ are officially banned,” says Chamberlin.
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