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12 Things to Never Say to Gay Men

Shit straight people say to gay guys.

We've all been there. You're with some friends, everything's going fine, and then out of the blue your straight friend says something like "well why isn't there a straight pride?" or "OMG I love gay people," or "please stop making RuPaul's Drag Race references at me."

If this has happened to you, or God forbid if you've ever said anything like this yourself, you might just benefit from thumbing through this list. Whether it's for catharsis, or educational purposes—please enjoy the 12 most irritating and problematic things you can say to gay men.

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1. “I know a guy, and you two are perfect for each other”
There are absolutely nothing worst then straight people trying to hook up gay people. Two people sharing the same sexual identity isn’t enough, it’s a much deeper process. Save everyone the embarrassment and stop trying to put your gay friend off onto your other gay friends.

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2. “How do you know you’re not attracted to women if you’ve never been with one?”
This question is belittling and very insensitive. When asking, you are calling that person’s intelligence into question; as if the mere sight and touch of a woman will turn them around and have them playing for another team. Love and attraction go far beyond experiences and to ask a question such as this can get you quite the response, so be cautious. 

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3. “Even though you’re gay, you’re still very much a man”
Sexual identity and gender have no alignment. It’s safe to say most will understand what you mean by saying this, but what you mean and what you’re saying are two different things. All gays guys aren’t the flamboyant, ‘girl-ish’ archetypes that are portrayed on TV and all men aren’t muscular and masculine. Let people live and stop trying to define them by whatever fabricated definition you’ve designed in your head.


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