Catching Up with Tila Tequila
By Noah Michelson
Some people, especially when A Shot st Love came out, said that your bisexuality was just a hoax, and that you were doing it for attention. How do you respond to those kind of accusations?
You can't hoax this -- unless I could win an Academy Award for my fantastic acting on A Shot At Love, which people criticized for saying that it was fake and I'm a fake bisexual. We shot it for a very long time. I'd lived in that house with these people. These were real feelings -- those were not actors and I'm not acting. And that was my first show, that's my big breakout moment, so, when people say that -- those are the people who are stereotypical or they're not bisexual. These are the people who are straight, who don't understand what it means to bisexual.
Do you consider yourself a role model for the queer community?
That's a very controversial subject -- for me to say that I'm a role model for the gay and lesbian community. I don't care what anyone says, they always talk shit about me. Whatever. You know what? I was the first one to put out a TV show about bisexuality and a lot of people came out to me at the time and said, "Your show really helped me come out." And then, right after season 2, Katy Perry made "I Kissed a Girl" and then everybody was kissing girls and then Ellen [DeGeneres] came out [Ed note: Ellen DeGeneres actually came out of the closet in 1997] and everybody started coming out, slowly. It became a topic of conversation. So I definitely think that it allowed people to talk about it and pay attention to it and not turn a blind eye to what's out there. So, you don't have to like me but I did it first.
You also have a reputation for being a very sexual person. How big of a part of your life is sex?
If I didn't have to work I would have sex -- I actually had to go to my therapist and say, "Hey, I have a sex addiction." I don't mean being promiscuous. I said, "Is this a problem? I don't understand." It's not like I go out there and I sleep with everybody but it just like, takes over me. And she says I have a very addictive personality because I have an addiction to the Internet and I would masturbate, literally, for nine hours and it would just ruin my day -- I'm not satisfied. And I don't understand what's wrong. And she would say, "It's another addiction. Try to focus that on something positive like working out." I'm like, 'Hmm. I'll stick to masturbating.'
Which is a kind of workout in and of itself.
[Laughs] It is a workout! That's how I keep in shape.
When people learned that we were going to be interviewing you, I got some e-mails and some tweets that said something along the lines of "I will never buy another copy of Out magazine ever again." What is it about you that gets people so riled up?
I'm very aggressive, I'm very vocal, I'm very intelligent, and they don't like women who are sexy and very intelligent and feisty, with an "I don't give a fuck" attitude. They like girls who are pretty, dumb -- just tits and ass. [It's like] "Just shut up and let us jerk off to you and act like a bimbo." Some girls out there -- I'm not going to say who, but we all know there's a couple of girls out there who are doing reality shows that don't have a voice, they don't stand for anything. Like, what are you doing? So I think a lot of people either really love me for that, because they write me and say, "You've helped me accept myself for who I am and [taught me] not to care what anyone else thinks." But then other people would be -- and it's not just with [Out magazine] - but once I post up anything, they would immediately call and bombard every single company or whomever I'm working with "I'm never going to watch your show again" or "I'm never going to blah blah blah." Why are you wasting your time? Do something positive. If you don't like me, why are you stalking me? If I don't like somebody, I'm not sitting here watching every single show they're on and then waiting and listening to a [radio] show and then calling in to stalk them. So I think there's a thin line between love and hate. When you hate somebody with that much passion, it's more like you're obsessed with them.