Adamo Ruggiero Makes the Yuletide Gay
By Dustin Fitzharris
Adam Lambert is another young star, who, like you, is very secure in his sexuality. Did you see his performance on the American Music Awards?
[Hesitantly] I did.
And what were your thoughts?
Oh, I knew this was coming.
I truly admire how open and how confident he is in how he projects himself. He makes no apologies. We have to have people like Adam Lambert who show that it's OK to be gay and to be yourself. At the same time we have to work hard to educate the people around us and not alienate them. It's a double-edged sword. Coming out is about educating everyone around you, but you have to balance the messages. Adam's willingness resonates with me, but we have to show that we are an important and -- actually -- a normal community. It's very much like the pride festivals. We put ourselves out there and have such amazing messages, but at the same time some people don't know how to deal with all the colors and the flamboyance. We should be able to kiss who we want to kiss and represent the community, but we need to deal with the paperwork that may come with it after the act.
Who is your biggest idol right now?
Lady Gaga. I know it's such a clich' gay thing to say, but I'm A-OK with it. She's fantastic. I think she's brought art back to pop culture. She has a huge amount of individuality, and I absolutely love it.
You once said your first celebrity crush was Mary-Kate Olsen. But who was the first celebrity male you had a crush on?
Oh my God! This is going to sound weird, but I remember growing up and my brother and I were really big X-Files fans. We used to watch it all the time. I know it's the weirdest thing, but David Duchovny. I just thought he was so cool, and it was probably my earliest crush as a kid.
Are you currently involved in a relationship?
Nope. I'm single.
What do you look for in a man?
Oh, that's the story of my life. I'm not looking for anything specific or fancy. What I fantasize about is nothing like who I end up dating.
And what do you fantasize about?
I want a man-man. He has to be confident with himself and have a sense of humor. I'm a bit of a neurotic, so I need a stable man -- preferably with a beard and nice jawline.
Would you like to get married one day?
That's such a hard question because I haven't met somebody. It seems like such a far away thing for me. I am a romantic at heart. I do appreciate having someone there with me. I can't be independent all the time, so I do hope to find the man who can spoon with me forever. I want someone to curl up with me in bed.
You said you'd like to play more gay characters in the future. What kind of gay characters would you like to explore?
I want to play a character who struggles with issues outside of being gay. My straight friends go through the same kinds of things that gay people my age do. We're worried about finding a job or how to deal with our families. I think if we show a character who doesn't talk about his sexuality so bluntly, it will be more powerful. We could just show a guy going home to his boyfriend and how they deal with being together. We all go through the same shit.
Finally, what are you the most proud of?
The two Pride episodes I did on Degrassi.