NPH Shares Secrets to a Successful Marriage
By Stacy Lambe
In the new issue of Glamour, Neil Patrick Harris gets candid about sex, love, and marriage. It shouldn’t be all that surprising that Harris would be so open when you consider his two most recent characters — the ladies’ man on How I Met Your Mother and the in-your-face rocker in Hedwig and the Angry Inch — the actor loves giving good talking head.
While Harris does open up about his sexual experiences with women growing up (“It left me feeling unsettled, as if I had somehow done it wrong.”), it’s his thoughts on what makes him and his husband David Burtka work that’s worth paying attention to.
On the topic of making things work “for better or worse,” Harris says you have to keep looking for the things that turn you on:
“Honeymoon phases end. They just do. We’re animals, and animals aren’t inclined to copulate with just each other for the rest of their lives. So here’s a challenge: How do you keep redefining your relationship? I think you have to find new elements that turn you on, and not only sexually. Having kids was one of those great moments for me. Watching David become another level of person, mastering this other domain, made me look at him with a whole other set of appreciative eyes. That sort of made me re-fall in love with him. That’s another important thing to realize. Everyone falls out of love with everything. You fall out of love with your house. You fall out of love with your job. You just have to figure out ways to keep [the love] alive.”
Those are some words to live by. Check out the rest of his interview at Glamour.com.