Jerick Hoffer, a.k.a. Jinkx Monsoon, was the outcast until he found the group that accepted him for his 'odd' interests
Seeing beyond our differences is more than a solitary decision
A gay adolescence under the Lone Star prepared Damon Suede to accept people, despite their differences
Kate Bornstein warns that seeking acceptance can mean following other people's 'rules'
It takes practice and vigilance and can take longer than one expects
