The Set-Up

1.16.2014

By Out Contributor

Actors Michael Urie & Ryan Spahn share the story of how they met and fell in love


Ryan, Actor: I had dated actors before, so that wasn’t what kept me from wanting to date him. But after he landed on Ugly Betty, I became really aware of who he was in a way that he wouldn’t be aware of me, because I’m not on TV. On the occasions we ran into each other, I didn’t feel like I should go up to him and be like, “Hey, remember when we were supposed to go on a date?” It had to be somewhat of an equal playing field before we could actually start talking for real.

He’s worked on different projects that take him out of the city, and I’ve been at school at Julliard, so we’ve been busy. We have a free relationship in that way, which helps us stay strong and fresh. It’s not something I worry about. We don’t have any rules that make it work; we have patterns. We text “Hi” to each other 30 times a day. That’s our way to say we’re thinking of each other. When we talk on the phone, he usually answers with, “What’s wrong?” If it’s three hours after I usually get up and haven’t texted something, he’ll text: “Are you alive? Do you hate me?” Something super dramatic and funny.

“We don’t have any rules that make it work; we have patterns. We text ‘Hi’ to each other 30 times a day. That’s our way to say we’re thinking of each other.”

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