No Asians!

I can agree with the sentiments in this article. I'm also Eurasian like the author, and I pass for white with most people (having hazel eyes with only the slightest hint of an almond shape--I more often than not have to prove I'm Asian when I say it). Yet I still have been told things like "You're cute, but I don't like Asians." It is most definitely a racism issue in my case, especially when it starts with "You're cute, but..." Seriously? How is that not racist?

San Francisco is the completely racially integrated area?
Seriously, that should be a joke.

Have you noticed most of gay researchers or activists never or barely collect data from Asians in their surveys in SF? Asians don't count. Asians are not the people. No matter what gay Asians think, say, or act, "people" don't care.

My first pre-twenty sexual experience was with a Chinese guy in Toronto and he was nice but I think his cultural influences kept him from seeing me again. Years later, I heard that non-white cultures have a hard time overcoming THEIR influences about dating white guys. Maybe, we all just want to avoid the cross-cultural difficulties and awkwardness.
I still think of him though.

hello i am a big angry hateful mean and some might say vile man.i drink anything that has alcohol in it,i drank shrimp scampi once.i dont like asian men because one ate my cat,i reached down old ho throat to save my cat triple k but all i came up with was his flea collar..

Here's something I read on Manhunt from a Caucasian fella: "I do admit I have a preference for Asians." This implied there was something shameful about it. okay, discuss

Fantastic piece. I agree with the above comment that said all the people on here supporting the views of the author gives me hope that there are some amazing people out there in our community. This kind of racial exclusion needs to end.

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I am gay Asian and while living in NYC, I have dated and hung out with many whites came from Italy, Wales, Israel, Sicily, etc., but few with white Americans. If ostratizing Asians is a preference like sexual preference then is there a in-born difference between white Americans and other whites?

In addition, I have been to a straight bar with my straight friends, and chosen by girls of all the different races. Girls were less racists than gays from my experience. Why is it that?

If anyone is hostile enough to write "no Asians" in their profile or to speak it out, I don't think they have many Asian friends in their lives. But, a lot of them still give excuses to themselves while saying they have lots of Asian friends but are just not into them due to their preferences. I think they lie or change the meaning of "friends" in that moment. They already beautify their racism as preference, so they wouldn't worry about lying, too. They are being hypocrites to hide their racism.

I think it IS racist to to not be attracted to a race, because I don't think it's true. I think the people who do this are intentionally refusing to look at many of certain ethnicities in order to support their own racist beliefs. I thought I wasn't attracted to black and asian guys because I like bears, until I met black and asian guys that I thought were extremely hot. The color of someones skin SHOULD NEVER be a turn off. That arguments just makes absolutely no sense to me. I think it's fucked up to have this discussion, to even allow it. This claim that race can be hard-wired into one's sexuality is like some sort of nazi, eugenics arguments. It's just the surface level representation of some deeper prejudices, and this argument about respecting one's sexual preferences as if it's the same thing as being into men to not be into people of color is just a way for this insidious idea to get into mainstream discourse under the guise of tolerance and political correctness.

I'm a white man, and I used to date all races until recently when I started dating Asians, and now I only date Asians simply because I find them most attractive. But reading this article, I can't help but feel like I'm being called a racist because I now date Asians to the exclusion of other races, so how is that different than not dating Asians?

Also, the article doesn't address Asians who only date Asians, of which there are many. Are they, too, racist by the same logic as a white man who only dates Asians?

Racism is very real, and the poster's point about Asians being excluded from many social circles is real, as are stereotypes which persist in the gay community regarding Asians (and other races, for that matter). However, when it comes to dating, if you are attracted to physical features which are dominant in a particular race, are you a racist for only dating that race?

So I'm Asian American, and though people may disagree whether individuals expressing racial preference or deference is racist, their preferences are nevertheless influenced by institutional and cultural racism and sexism. My theory is that gay men who generally avoid dating Asians do so because they've unfortunately learned to be insecure about their masculinity. The common gay male experience is to grow up being gay bashed and being called a sissy. So they erroneously learn that sexual orientation and gender role are synonymous. Enter the Asian culture that is stereotyped as feminine, and gay guys will shy away from dating Asians because they want to avoid further association with anyone who would risk their being labeled effeminate themselves. This is consistent with some men's overcompensation to look like the hyper masculine Tom of Finland men, sporting butch tattoos and leather chaps and manscaping their beards. What my friend calls Gears of War gay. I do believe internal gender phobia is the root cause of some gay men's No Asian policy. If only they really couldn't care less what other people think of their masculinity or femininity, and act more like honey badgers, there would be less anti-Asian sentiments in the gay community.

Honestly, I do not know how I ended up here, being a straight Asian male and all...

But, if you don't consider religion/culture as part of race, then what is race? Physical appearance? Can a white man with almond eyes and tinted skin be considered Asian then?

Don't get me wrong, I understand that there's discrimination everywhere, and I do feel for you when you say you're discriminated against, but it seems like people are discriminating off of perceived physical appearance more than anything. "No Asians" is a very broad statement and quite offensive in my opinion. It's disregarding every personality and physical trait that falls under this "Asian" category. You know, all the good unique stuff about a person that Disney says we should take the time to get to know about individuals.

With that being said, you know, the word Asian refer to much more than China, Japan, Korea and South East Asia. It also includes but is not limited to: India, Russia and the Middle East. You know, because of the whole CONTINENT thing. The only reason why anyone would categorize and write something this ignorant or even argue that it's not racist or anything, is because they are white and/or privileged enough to disregard the most populous continent on Earth, making up 60% of the current human population.

I could be wrong and it could just be the almond eyes, skin varying from light to dark and perceived smaller penis length sub-category of Asians that you dislike so much... if so, you're a racist.

But, honestly, if you must put "No Asians" up, don't kid yourself my friend, you's a racist. Might as well put: "Insanely shallow person who believes 60% of the world isn't good enough for me looking for another insanely shallow person."

And if this website is just a hookup website then, you know, whatever floats your boat. But don't think that that will absolve you from the truth... you's a racist.

Also, from experience, people tend to mix up ethnicity and culture. I find that often, once people get to know me, the exterior seems to not matter anymore. I suspect many "no Asian" proponents are driven by indifference in the Asian culture, which then taints the individual with that culture. This leads me to think that the current climate (or preference if you so choose) is quite arbitrary and artificial, dictated by past white dominated culture in the gay world. I can see this shifting in the gay scene. A lot more younger gays are a lot less racially discriminating. Thank god for evolution. After all, the standard of desire changes over time. At some time in history, large women were touted as sexually superior and desirable, compared with skinny ones. I think standard of desirability and beauty is not a innate preference per se. It may be environmental preference by prolonged conditioning but the preference is certainly mutable.

A lot of comments are missing one thing. Excluding Asians is not just about sex, but also includes friendship. I found that out while observing online dating sites and gay clubs. Gay friends don't necessarily mean they will have sex together, but Asians are often excluded in gay social circles, forcefully self-segregated.

I am seeing a lot of defensive or evasive comments here, but sexual racism exists. People don't realize it yet or don't want to see it.

Alexander Chee, I think that the racist world that you discuss in your recent article is a farce, it is simply because a facepic at start on Grindr would resolve these personal preferences from even being expressed, I have never put No Asians on my profile. I have seen what you discuss and haved lived in SF over 10 years, the Castro has become more of a melting pot then ever before. Especially with the help of Les Natali. You should do an article on him. As the first post said, you cannot do with a banna what you can do with a pencil, they have different functions. Racist Motives and simple Taste need to be separate in your article as you are the one penning turmoil by commenting on an app claim you do not even use and labeling some guy saving a bit of time racist. If you feel it is wrong you should be telling your readers dont be sad when you cant get that boy, block him and move on there is one out there that will love you for who you are.