A very wise Portia de Rossi once said, "I really, honestly think that anybody who is openly gay and visible is powerful. It doesn't matter what you do, you are impacting people."
Today, Kelly Rowland's debuted the video for her second single from her album Talk a Good Game. In the song, Rowland asks the public to bear witness to old trauma, addresses the realities of living in her good friend's shadow, and comes out as a survivor of an abusive romantic relationship.
Speaking out about physical and emotional abuse is not easy. America's public eye is quick to pass judgement on anyone who may come out as a survivor because it is much easier to pretend the problem isn't a reality. We don't want to believe abuse happens in our communities, in our families, in our country. We don't want to believe it could happen to us and we certainly don't want to believe our friends could be prepretators. It's much easier to call those who are abused weak, to make excuses for why they deserve it, and to choose not to believe their stories at all than it is to take responsibility and make changes.
"Dirty Laundry" isn't the most poetic song I've ever heard. There's not a ton of nuance in Rowland's lyrics. But, if what de Rossi says is true and, if simply being public and open about homosexuality is as powerful as she says it is, then hopefully a public confession about surviving abuse is just as powerful. Maybe Rowland's new song can impact a few people as well.
Also, she's a survivor and she's gonna make it.
Watch out for more from her album Talk A Good Game, which features impressive list of co-writers such as Joni Mitchell, Jermaine Jackson, and Pharrell Williams.
Watch it below: