Catching Up With Kelly Killoren Bensimon


By Joseph Hassan

What comes across in this show is that you're one of the women who doesn't participate as much in the self-editing process. What you see is what you get --
I would never edit. That's what everyone says to me, that's the biggest complaint. They are like "Why aren't you using it as a vehicle? Why aren't you showing a certain side so you can maximize on it." And I'm like "What for?" If you are going to say something mean to me, I would rather cry and scream at you and say I am not going to put up with that then be disingenuous and create an emotion or emote an emotion that's not real. I don't take my job home. Like I tell my kids, we're not affected by it. The rest of the world might be, but we are not.

Gotcha. So you are sort of less concerned about the way that things come across on TV --
If I was concerned, on the reunion show, I would have been engaged in the conversation. I mean I was so bored by everything I was just like, 'The conversation is over.' We already had this so I am not going to talk about talking. I think that was clear to everybody they were like Uh-oh...

You had moved on, they were still talking but you weren't having any more of it --
No. It's not that I had moved on, it's just if you want to talk to me about something that's real and something that's serious, then absolutely I'll talk about it. But if you are going to talk to me about something that you fabricated -- absolutely not.

Are you interested in having your own show?
It's funny that you ask that because my kids were saying that the other day. They are like, "We want to have your own show. People need to see who Kelly Bensimon really is." The one reason I would like to do my own show is because I am exposed to so many unbelievable people and so I would use my show as a vehicle to explore all these different people that I know, whether it would be Richard Meier to the man that helps me with my computers. I really want people to understand that brilliance isn't about a financial amount, it's about the state of mind and I happen to know an incredibly amazing group of people. I would like to be the vehicle to expose all those amazing people. I mean that's my one reason why I love working for magazines. Everybody has a great story -- I would love to be the vehicle for that. Would it be necessarily about Kelly Killoren Bensimon? It's never really about me. It's always about the other people because that's what I find interesting. I don't really find what I do really interesting.

So it sounds like more of talk-show format --
No, not a talk-show format. I'd rather have them come in and help me train my dog. The dog trainer that I have is amazing with animals and I'd rather have you learn about him and then me going and meeting a man that's opening a new restaurant or someone that's working in branding or someone that's in fashion. I would rather have you come in and walk in my shoes and see all these amazing people. Do I need to be a comic relief for them? No. Can I be a vehicle for them to show how amazing people are? Yeah, I would love that. But not really like a talk show. I would rather have it be more organic.

So you'd be the vehicle to learn about other people?
Yeah, because I am very low-key and people, when they are around me, they talk to me because I am actually interested in what they have to say. And I am not combative and I just want to know who they are and what makes them them. I think that a lot of people respond well to that and you don't see that on Housewives because they don't want me to be the real me. They want me to be a socialite in New York. The way that they like me is not the way that I really am. The moment where I was filming for Hamptons Magazine -- when I was taking the pictures -- that was really a great moment because it really showed how I am like that. They did show me in my real life during that scene and also with my kids they showed me in real life.

Right, but that's obviously not most of the airtime that you get --
Well, most of the airtime is with these women that I don't even know and it's like 'I don't even understand what you're fighting with me about.' I don't get it. Mostly I'm just like 'Huh? What?' And then I look like I'm an airhead because I'm not engaging in stuff that I don't understand. I don't want to -- it's not like we are talking about politics, we are not talking about something that's going to affect my kids or my business, so therefore I don't want to talk about.

So you're just sort of disengaged and disinterested in what's going on around you on the show?
It's not interesting, it's not like people are talking about their real feelings. It's always about random facts that are disconnected and I am always just like, 'Guys, we need a script.' Because we need to stick to something like "Today we are going to talk about kids, tomorrow we are going to talk about dogs, tomorrow and the next day we are going to talk about work" -- so there is a common conversation so we all know what we are talking about versus "I don't like your hair."

Well, what would an ideal story or plotline? You mentioned politics earlier. What is interesting to you in the realm of politics right now that would make for a more interesting dialogue?
Talking about sex. All of us have kids. What are you doing? How are you teaching your kids about safe sex? Is your daughter having sex? I mean, don't you think America -- don't you think all the women in America that are in their 40s would want to hear how New York women are dealing with their kids thinking about sex? Starting to learn about sex and the possibility of engaging in it? Don't you think people want to hear about that? Or going to back to work at 40 years old -- how do you go back to the workplace after you did not work for so long? Or charity work. How do you actually start a charity? Basically, more information is what I'm saying. It's like teaching people how to do stuff.

Teaching as opposed to just fighting?
It's not like these women aren't smart. They all are exposed to such amazing people and I don't understand why we are not exploring how great we are -- we would rather exploit how bad we are.

Do you think the ratings would be as good?
You can still fight, but you could learn, too. It's called back-door education. Why do we have to be all flowers and lollipops? Why can't it be like fighting, but we are actually learning? That's called back-door education. I would love that.

Maybe that's what your show could be about?
Because I want my show to be about back-door education! [Laughs]. You know this new program that I am doing? I said there's only one thing that I want. I only want one thing. I want live stream. So every time I walk into the office, I want to be live. They're like, "What are you talking about?" I said every time I walk into to the office I wanted to be live -- on me in every single meeting. How do I work, how do I do things, how do I get things done? Because people are always asking me, "How do you do so much in a day? How do you get all the stuff done?"

To be clear, you're talking about people being able to tune in and watch you at any point of the day to see what you are actually doing at work?
Yep, at any point of the day.