She Didn't Just Kiss Her


By Noah Michelson

What did they take offense with specifically?
The one letter I got directly was from an older fan of mine -- a woman probably in her late 40s or early 50s. She said that she thought I took it too far and that sometimes being in your face can come back to bite you in the ass. I told her that her point was taken and that I did understand that this was risky, but that this was a part of me that I needed to get out there and that I hoped people would take it in full context with the other songs that I have and wouldn't take it so seriously.

Love Katy Perry or hate her, there's something to be said for visibility and I think she's offered that to the queer community -- whatever her intention was.
Exactly! In my mind the gay community should be thanking Katy Perry because what she did was open up the debate again. She opened it up where people could say 'I kissed a girl' or 'I didn't just kiss her' -- whatever it is she opened up a conversation which has given us more exposure. That's something we should be grateful for.

When did you decide to pen a response to Katy's song?
It all began with the melody and the groove of the song. I had other lyrics to that same song but the lyrics were more cerebral -- more political -- and I thought that groove and that melody was so hooky and I wanted to get that out there. So I thought, This needs lyrics that you can't mistake. This needs lyrics that are as compelling as the music. With that, I just started playing with the melody and the first thing that came out of my mouth was 'I didn't just kiss her' and it just flowed and literally within an hour I'd written the whole song. It just hit me as a no-brainer. I was like, Oh my God, this could be an amazing chance to get some exposure for my other music and for the song itself.

It's a great make out song. It reminded me of when you responded to our Top 100 Greatest, Gayest Albums of All Time poll last October and said of Sarah McLachlan's Fumbling Towards Ecstasy, 'Lesbians all across the world have had sex to this record. A LOT of sex.'
Do you know what? Sarah got wind of that comment! This is the most amazing thing. I got this Google alert for 'Sarah McLachlan' and 'lesbian' not long after that and apparently some lesbian interviewer had pointed out that 'musician Jen Foster says your album'' and quoted the article! So Sarah, in her response, just laughed and said, 'I love that! I love that people are still having that reaction to that record and it makes me feel good to know that people are having a good time and having good sex to the record.' So it was awesome to know that my name and Out magazine had been mentioned to Sarah McLachlan.

What other albums get you in the mood?
Sade? Lately I haven't even had time to have sex. [Laughs] You need to recommend some albums to me. [Laughs]

Yeah. We need to change that.
I've been so busy writing songs and on the road. My girlfriend is like 'Hello! A little attention over here!'

"I Didn't Just Kiss Her" is available for download from iTunes.

Foster is currently putting the finishing touches on her next album, Thirty-Nine. For more music and info check out and her MySpace page.

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